Maladaptive modes in the Modra family

 
No, we are not perfect, even though we may think we are pretty good. The truth is, we have our weaknesses, false alignments and prejudice's regarding what we know and what we have confessed. These often subtle truths are something we often only learn if our partners and our Creator ever get through to us.

But what a job that is --- reforming someone who has the tendencies briefly outlined below. 
Good better best  we aim for , but we should know that while we can't change each other , we should aim to have those moments  when we speak the truth in love . 

What do we /you do if you think your family is not listening to you ? 
I say not much. Even our family and friends can be reluctant to speak to us directly and honestly. They have their own lives to lead, their own people to listen to. 
I often say we only need one truthful friend, and that can be enough.
 Grace is on offer for you right here and now to have just the one .that can really help. 

Problem ( not a complete list !) 
1. Smoothing things over when cracks appear . ----You will notice I didn't say cranks ( yes we can be a highly dysfunctional family in time and places BUT with real listening,  reading and renewal we can restore a sound walk together. 

This talking out was not a feature of the Modras of the Millewa because they were going backward out there. The children all put in their youth and energy in to try and make the farm work and their dad disappeared (died of appendicitis) just as their land disappeared and was taken from them a few years later.  Noone cared for them. least of all the  government who did respect their great contribution and ownership of the resources .
Don't expect anyone to reward you for investing in their dreams. Submit your dreams for approval to someone who knows you better than you know yourself .  



Solutions 
1  ( not a complete list )  
Don't work too  hard   ( one of our Uncles favorite sayings) ---- make time to really listen to others. 
You may think it noble to sacrifice all your life to work ( and your dreams )  , but don't hang it on your wife ( or other family ) to agree to that decision (ie  following YOUR own wisdom and your dreams )  unless it was in your ( marriage ) contract .

The three way contract is the only one that IMO effectively frames the leader in a soundly based family with roles and responsibilities to listen to each others needs dreams and demands.  
Only your Creator Redeemer Friend knows what is best for you --- listen to Him. 

TBC